Whenever I go to a baby shower, I usually sign the card with
something like this: “There is nothing more fulfilling, scary, astonishing and
overwhelming than being a mother. Remember to enjoy the good moments but, take
the not so good ones in stride.” Lately, I’ve come to realize that it’s
important to tell a mother this whether her child is a new born or grown with
their own kids. There are a few mothers that I know (and probably some that I
don’t know) who need to be uplifted.
I know it’s hard being a mother and being heartbroken over
what your child has done. Mothers feel responsible for their children and tend
to carry the guilt of their children’s failures on their shoulders. Not only
that, but society is quick to fault mothers too. I myself have said that a
child had no home training when I saw them being unruly in public.
Carrying all that weight is a heavy burden to bear. Just try
to remember that although there will be times that are scary and overwhelming,
letting the good outweigh the bad is what will bring the fulfillment. There is
no one proven way in raising a child that will guarantee their success. If
there was, please believe that whatever forms the info came in, whether book, DVD,
or lecture, it would be sold out on a continuous basis.
You can be a straight laced, bible toter or a laid back “I
want my child to be my friend” type of parent and the outcome is still unknown.
All we can do as mothers is raise our children with love and pray that when
they are coming into adult hood, we have given them enough compassion and
understanding of how the world works, that they will make the right decisions.
And if not, that’s okay, because we will still be there to help guide them
along the way. We just have to remember that there is a fine line between
guidance and total take over.
So to every mother who has had their bumps in the road and
mountains to climb, stay in a positive mind and take it all in stride.
